Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

Title/Judul: Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead
Author/Penulis:Sheryl Sandberg, Nell Scovell (Co-Writer)
Publisher/Penerbit: Knopf
Number of pages/Jumlah halaman: 240

Synopsis/Sinopsis:
Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In is a massive cultural phenomenon and its title has become an instant catchphrase for empowering women. The book soared to the top of bestseller lists internationally, igniting global conversations about women and ambition. Sandberg packed theatres, dominated opinion pages, appeared on every major television show and on the cover of Time magazine, and sparked ferocious debate about women and leadership.

Ask most women whether they have the right to equality at work and the answer will be a resounding yes, but ask the same women whether they’d feel confident asking for a raise, a promotion, or equal pay, and some reticence creeps in.

The statistics, although an improvement on previous decades, are certainly not in women’s favour – of 197 heads of state, only twenty-two are women. Women hold just 20 percent of seats in parliaments globally, and in the world of big business, a meagre eighteen of the Fortune 500 CEOs are women.

In Lean In, Sheryl Sandberg – Facebook COO and one of Fortune magazine’s Most Powerful Women in Business – draws on her own experience of working in some of the world’s most successful businesses and looks at what women can do to help themselves, and make the small changes in their life that can effect change on a more universal scale.

Lean In Sheryl Sandberg adalah fenomena budaya yang masif dan judulnya telah menjadi slogan untuk pemberdayaan wanita. Buku tersebut melonjak ke daftar terlaris  internasional, memicu percakapan global tentang wanita dan ambisi. Sandberg muncul di berbagai media, dan memicu perdebatan sengit tentang wanita dan kepemimpinan.

Jika Anda bertanya kepada kebanyakan wanita apakah mereka memiliki hak atas kesetaraan di tempat kerja dan mereka akan menjawab iya, tapi ketika Anda bertanya kepada mereka apakah mereka merasa percaya diri untuk meminta kenaikan gaji, promosi, atau kesetaraan upah dan ketidakyakinan mulai terlihat.

Statistik menunjukkan, meskipun telah ada perbaikan pada dekade sebelumnya, tapi belum menguntungkan perempuan sepenuhnya- dari 197 kepala negara, hanya dua puluh dua adalah perempuan. Perempuan hanya memiliki 20 persen kursi di parlemen secara global, dan di dunia bisnis besar, delapan belas CEO Fortune 500 adalah wanita (jumlah yang sedikit).

Dalam Lean In, Sheryl Sandberg – COO Facebook berbagi apa yang dapat dilakukan wanita untuk membantu diri mereka sendiri mengacu pada pengalamannya yang telah bekerja beberapa perusahaan paling sukses di dunia dan mengajak wanita membuat perubahan kecil. Perubahan yang bisa berdampak pada skala yang lebih besar/universal.

Review:

This book has been flooded my social media since I graduated from university in 2014. I saw lots of my peer read this book so I am curious, but I kept postponing buying and reading this book since I thought this book bring heavy topics and has stiff writing like a textbook. After reading this book, I must admit I was so wrong and really regret did not read this book sooner. 😢😢

Buku ini telah membanjiri media sosial saya sejak saya lulus dari universitas pada tahun 2014 lalu. Saya melihat banyak teman saya membaca buku ini sehingga saya jadi penasaran, namun saya terus menunda membeli dan membaca buku ini karena saya mengira buku ini membahas topik yang berat dan memiliki gaya penulisan yang kaku, seperti buku pelajaran. Setelah membaca buku ini, saya harus mengakui bahwa saya salah dan sangat menyesal tidak membaca buku ini lebih awal. 😢😢

 

 

This book told Stenberg’s story about her background and how she tried to “balance” her work and being a mom. This book is really inspiring. I really like the messages and how Sandberg’s story is so relatable and realistic.

Buku ini menceritakan kisah Stenberg tentang latar belakangnya dan bagaimana dia mencoba “menyeimbangkan” pekerjaannya dan menjadi seorang ibu. Buku ini sangat menginspirasi. Saya sangat menyukai pesan dan bagaimana kisah Sandberg begitu mudah diingat dan realistis.

My fav parts/Bagian favorit saya:

There is no perfect fit when you’re looking for the next big thing to do. You have to take opportunities and make an opportunity fit for you, rather than the other way around. The ability to learn is the most important quality a leader can have.
“I hope you find true meaning, contentment, and passion in your life. I hope you navigate the difficult times and come out with greater strength and resolve. I hope you find whatever balance you seek with your eyes wide open. And I hope that you – yes, you – have the ambition to lean in to your career and run the world. Because the world needs you to change it.” 

“When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.” 

Whenever a married woman asks me for advice on coparenting with a husband, I tell her to let him put the diaper on the baby any way he wants as long as he’s doing it himself. And if he gets up to deal with the diaper before being asked, she should smile even if he puts that diaper on the baby’s head. Over time, if he does things his way, he’ll find the correct end. But if he’s forced to do things her way, pretty soon she’ll be doing them herself.

letting a partner take responsibility and do his share in his own way is easy to say and hard to do. My brother, David, and sister-in-law, Amy, were very aware of this tension when they first became parents. “There were many times when our daughter was more easily consoled by me,” Amy said. “It’s really hard to listen to your baby cry while your struggling husband with no breasts tries desperately and sometimes awkwardly to comfort her. David was insistent that rather than handing the baby to me when she was crying, we allow him to comfort her even if it took longer. It was harder in the short run, but it absolutely paid off when our daughter learned that Daddy could take care of her as well as Mommy.

Another one of my favorite posters at Facebook declares in big red letters, “Done is better than perfect.” I have tried to embrace this motto and let go of unattainable standards. Aiming for perfection causes frustration at best and paralysis at worst. I agree completely with the advice offered by Nora Ephron in her 1996 Wellesley commencement speech when she addressed the issue of women having both a career and family. Ephron insisted, “It will be a little messy, but embrace the mess. It will be complicated, but rejoice in the complications. It will not be anything like what you think it will be like, but surprises are good for you. And don’t be frightened: you can always change your mind. I know: I’ve had four careers and three husbands.”

One of the conflicts inherent in having choice is that we all make different ones. There is always an opportunity cost, and I don’t know any woman who feels comfortable with all her decisions. As a result, we inadvertently hold that discomfort against those who remind us of the path not taken. Guilt and insecurity make us second-guess ourselves and, in turn, resent one another

We all want the same thing: to feel comfortable with our choices and to feel validated by those around us. So let’s start by validating one another. Mothers who work outside the home should regard mothers who work inside the home as real workers. And mothers who work inside the home should be equally respectful of those choosing another option

I really recommend you to read this book! 5 star for Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead!